Well… I recently made a questionnaire out of curiosity to see what people see or think when they want a partner in their lives.
Disclaimer: The results of this questionnaire does not determine or speak for everyone. In the end, not everyone is same.
However, I hope you guys will find the results interesting.
So… In this survey, a total of 85 people participated and since I shared it in mostly LGBT groups where mostly gay guys are more active, most of the participants were gay…
Now, let’s first talk about the predominant gay people. Total of 58 gay guys participated. And its interesting that gay guys who identify themselves as top are lesser in the list of participants. It was an open questionnaire. So, this makes me wonder if tops are really shy because I don’t think there’s any lack of tops. Trust me, on the gay dating apps, I mostly find tops sending me messages.
I asked the tops, what do they want their partner to be and out of 9 people, majority does not care.
However, most of the bottoms are very specific it seems.
However, this doesn’t seem that surprising, coming from versatile gay guys.
Now, amongst these 58 guys, 50% of guys prefer masculine guys but not alpha men. Some don’t care the kind of guy as long as they are good people and there’s love and few want to have alpha male guys.
Now, let’s speak about lesbians. I guess lesbians are either busy in their own lives, working for themselves or the society or they are too shy to participate. Only 4 girls participated who identify themselves as lesbians.
However, its amazing to see that these girls don’t care what their girl prefers in bed (as long as there is love, I believe).
However, what kind of girl they want as partner is something that seems to be determined by their personal preference in bed. This should give an insight.
Now, since straight, bisexual and pansexual can be either men, women or trans people, here’s the percentage break down of how many of them participated.
Now, out of these, we got as many bisexual and pansexual people as there are straight men who were interested in the survey. However, straight women seems to be more active on facebook than the rest.
Now, that says, 5 straight men and 7 straight women participated. However, most of them do not care if the person is masculine or feminine.
Now, few questions were common to all. First was, what is their preferred age group and it seems 21-30 is most preferred.
PS the participants were between 19 to 50 years and most of them were between the age group of 19 to 30.
Next was, how many of them are monoamorous and how many are polyamorous. And undoubtedly, monoamorous holds majority with 60 out of 85.
When monoamorous people were asked what would they do if their partner is polyamorous and they can’t change, their response was not surprising for me. 33 out of 60 said, they will leave their partner.
I guess, people still think that loving more than one means cheating on your partner who loves you only or maybe they want their partner to love them only. However, when polyamorous people were asked what would they do if their partner is monoamorous, 22 out of 25 said they’ll adjust.
I guess, polyamorous people will mostly have to cut down on their love for others and shut their feelings out and they’ll be asked to choose any one. However, I honestly respect those 27 monoamorous people who believe they’ll try to adjust with the fact that their love loves someone else as well. I know its not easy.
Now, let’s take a look at what do they see first while choosing a partner.
Based on this, majority of people consider the nature of a person. The ones who selected other, wanted to select more than one option. However, there was one option that was answered in the other section and that was emotional independence. Now that was interesting.
Some people asked me why do I not have multiple option for this. Honestly, I wanted people to respond to this based on what comes first in their mind instead of going by everything.
I also wanted to see if people would speak up for a random queer person if their partner passes a derogatory comment at someone for being different from others and I must say, this makes me happy to see that most of the people would try to make their partner realize that they are wrong.
Now, all of this does not conclude anything in specific but it is certainly interesting to see these responses. Now this final question was to see how these people themselves see a group which is treated as an outcast mostly, the hijras. And I’m glad to see that most of the people do not see them as an outcast but as any other human being who deserves same space as everyone else. Some of them also acknowledge that they are underprivileged which means they believe that hijras deserve more than what they currently have in the society.
I hope you guys find these results as interesting as it is for me. What do you think?