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Discrimination in renting

Are you earning enough to pay your rents on time? Are you paying your rents on time? Are you living without creating any nuisance and disturbance for your neighbors? Do you have no criminal background? 

Well, these are certain questions that one should be concerned about when giving a place on rent. But the sad part is, in Mumbai, a city of dreams, where one expects a little liberal society, the landlords, society, etc these people love to make this city of dreams a city of nightmare when it comes up renting out a place. 

In Malad West, near Atharva college, there is a society named Ashmita Jyoti. Two of my friends rented out a place on the second floor. When taking the place, the broker ensured them that as long as you people don’t create noise, it’s OK if your friends visit.

On my way to my home, their home comes first, so I drop by once in a while. We have food together, talk, watch movies together etc. We sometimes play music which is usually never audible outside the room. You’ll know it when you’ll come to this house. We have birthday parties or festival celebrations which is again a gathering of a few people and you can’t hear anything outside. I know it because everytime I go out to get cigarettes, the moment the door closes, the voices aren’t audible. 

However, the people of the society still ended up having problem. The landlord of my friends had seen me, the blonde haired guy and my other friend, a blonde dread lock haired guy at this house. After few weeks, landlord started calling my friends saying, society people are complaining that everyday you have friends coming in. When asked, if there is any noise or disturbance? There was no answer to it. 

My friends and we all decided that we will visit less frequently. We went to celebrate Diwali to their house. Well you don’t celebrate Diwali sitting in one place and not meeting your only family, your friends in the city, do you? Guess what! The next day, the complaint was, your friends have… WAIT FOR IT… “WEIRD HAIR“. Yes, my dear friends, people of Ashmita Jyoti have issues with what is your HAIRSTYLE. 

Me and these friends of mine went to Goa on first of November randomly and came back today and now this landlord called them saying, a girl visited your home yesterday and people are complaining that you all are gay.

Now people have problems with if your friends are coming home, if your friends have different hairstyle, if you’re gay, what you do within your four walls, which TV series you watch, how many teeth you have, how many RBCs does your body contain and probably they also have problem with what color of poop you excrete. 

This is just a clear sign of no matter if you want to have peaceful life or what, these homophobic people don’t want to see us in peace. They just need reasons to create disturbances. Not just us but these people have no good to do so they want to create the lives hell for everyone else who is not them. Religion, caste, food habit, sexuality, birth place, etc, they can make a complaint against you for anything. 

They may not have any proof of anything but still they will make complaint. Now my friend are being asked to leave and look for new house in couple of months but the question is, without doing anything wrong they now need to go through shifting again and not to forget brokerage is also a thing. 

It’s pathetic and horrible on societies and landlords like these. Not that anyone would care about it and the politicians have everything they need, why should they bother about “miniscule minorities”? 

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Discrimination in the name of preference

So, being androgynous, I’m less of a man for the world. I’m effeminate because I’m not masculine enough and I often come across people who would say, “no offence but I don’t like effeminate guys”.

Now, many of you may not find it offensive or discriminatory, however, for a person who has been facing discrimination for all his life, fighting against the bullies still standing strong as who he is, you don’t really get the right to say, “you shouldn’t feel bad”, unless you’ve been on the receiving end. 

For me, masculine guys are a turn off but I prefer to say, “I prefer twinks”. If the person is still persistent, I simply start ignoring them. Ignoring someone may seem to be rude but ignoring a person whom you have clarified you aren’t attracted to them isn’t as rude as saying, “I don’t like bulky guys”. Because the moment you do that, it will hurt the ego of those gym freaks that how can he say no to a hot guy like me. 

A guy who spends time in gym, invests his time and money to get that body. He has done a hard work to get that body and that’s why they can feel offended when someone tells them that they are not someone’s type. Similarly, an effeminate guy has been through a lot of mental and social stigma. They have worked hard to be where they are and who they are and hence they too can feel offended by statements like, “I don’t like effeminate guys”.

Stop justifying your statement and think from their perspective for once. Moreover, stop giving stupid excuses for your statement. This one guy had an excuse, “I’m gay because I prefer GUYS. If I had to date someone feminine, I’d have been straight.” Trust me, he isn’t the only one to think like that. I’ve seen many such people. 

Here’s the thing, sexuality is purely determined by the sexual organs and not by gender. That’s why everyone needs to learn the difference between gender and sex. A straight man is a person with male genitalia (read dicks) and attracted to female genitalia (read vagina) and vice versa. Similarly, a gay man is a person with male genitalia and attracted to male genitalia.  

What I’m trying to say is, you are not gay because you like masculine people but because you like dicks over pussy. There are many masculine girls, doesn’t mean you can imagine having sex with her. Similarly straight men prefer pussy not femininity otherwise, they wouldn’t have minded dating effeminate guys. Now that its clear, why you are gay, lemme tell you guys a little secret : Effeminate guys also have dicks.

When you say, “I don’t like effeminate guys”, what you’re actually saying is, “I don’t like dicks of people who make me feel that they should’ve had pussy”. Now if that’s not offensive, then I don’t know what is. You might be best friends with effeminate guys, but with that one “I don’t like effeminate guys” you showed that you’re distrustful towards your own friends. 

There are so many way to not be offensive, like:

  1. I don’t get sexually attracted to guys like you but I don’t mind being friends (its not like every gay guy you come across, you have sex with them). 
  2. I am sexually attracted to such guys. 
  3. I prefer this type of guys. 
  4. I’m sorry but I think you should find someone else. 
  5. I have my eyes for someone else. 

And so many other ways. All you need to do is feel what your words can make others feel. That’s why we are humans. We have the capability to understand what others can feel and strive to help each other grow strong, instead of casually saying anything and then trying to defend it. Be kind to others as long as they are not being rude to you. 

Effeminate guys are guys too. Not liking them is not your preference. Your preference can be hunks, twinks, bears, otters, nerd, geek, etc. When you have to tell someone, tell them your preference. Why do you have to mention what is NOT your preference? 

With that, I should head to my work now. Enjoy your day and think before you speak. 

No CDs or TGs allowed.

Hello people. Please don’t read CDs here are compact discs. Here, CDs mean cross dressers and TGs, as you might know, mean transgenders.

Did I mention about homophobia within the community in my previous post? This is another form of discrimination within the community I am going to address today.

Continue reading No CDs or TGs allowed.

Eyes on me

Today, I was going for choir practice (yes I’m a part of India’s first gay choir group, Rainbow voices). On my way, while I was in an auto rickshaw, another one was driving just next to us. Busy on my phone, I didn’t notice what was happening. When all of a sudden my driver shouted, “Marad hai. Mud mud k dekhne ki zaroorat nahi. Agey badh.” (He’s a man. No need to turn your heads. Go ahead.)

Continue reading Eyes on me

An open letter to our Prime Minister

To

Mr. Narendra Modi,

I am DivyaRoop, a citizen of India. I was born in Ranchi, Jharkhand. My parents are not rich people so I don’t have ways to reach you. Hence, I am writing this to you to seek the answers to the questions that haunt me day in and day out. Continue reading An open letter to our Prime Minister

You shameless western people!

“So as per the latest update, some of the shameless beings of our society are promoting public display of love and doing obscene things like kissing in public keeping our cultural values at stake. These people do not have any shame. They should rather go pee on the roadsides because that is much better than kissing in public. Of course, even for that, you must be a man. If you are a girl or a woman, you are wrong at every point anyway because hellooooooo… YOU ARE A WOMAN OKAYYYY????

What is this #KissOfLove nonsense? Bringing west to our culture. Such people I tell you. These people are shameless and have no self respect. They just want to adopt western culture. These people should leave India and go to USA. They are the slaves of such bad cultures.

Our Indian culture is soooo much better. If a guy will attend such protests, we will ask him to send his sisters and mothers to us. And if a girl attends such protest, it simply means that she is welcoming the rapists. Why should we even try to understand what was the aim of the protest? WHO CARES? Continue reading You shameless western people!

What I can never understand…

I do not understand hate at all. I mean personal grudges or rivalries are fine because someone stole your girlfriend or harmed your loved ones in anyway or bought a better phone than yours are like personal reasons to envy someone or hate them but the hate for a whole community is something I can never understand.

One religious cult hates another one and kills the people who follow it or one region hates the other region and bombs it are the things I can never understand. And a kind of hate to which I am personally associated is hate towards sexuality other than heterosexuality. In this post, I am going to talk about the hate for alternate sexuality. Continue reading What I can never understand…

Stop being loud

“Its ok man. Your sexuality is just a part of you. Its not what defines who you are. You are more than your sexuality. Why the hell do you have to be so loud about your sexuality? Why do you have to make a big fuss out of it? Why do you need a pride parade to show off your sexuality? Why do you guys have to dress up in weird ways for such things? We straight people don’t have straight pride or anything like that. Because we know that our sexuality is not what defines us. You guys should understand that.”

Continue reading Stop being loud

Being Gay is a choice? Really? Think again

“Being gay is a choice”… This statement makes me laugh. How many of you think that a person would like to choose a life of humiliation, discrimination, hatred, torture, etc. Do you really think that a person can choose a life where his family can throw him out? Where sisters tell him that he is mentally sick? That he cannot live unless he changes himself? That he is a shame to the family? Do you really think that anyone would love to choose this life? I bet no one, or tell me if you can. Continue reading Being Gay is a choice? Really? Think again