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To the people of Grindr…

If you are wondering what Grindr is, let me explain a bit. Its a dating application for gay or bi men. Its like not-so-sanskari version of shaadi dot com or bharatmatrimony dot com. You see, these websites give the facility to find a suitable partner for straight people for marriage (I guess. Do they really use it for marriage? I doubt.) But since there’s no concept of gay marriages, we go on grindr to find a suitable partner to date or just be friends with. People go there to find hookups as well (OH MY GOSH we homos are such perverts, isn’t it? Bleh, whatever.)

Today, I wanted to address a few things (or should I say people?) which I find irritating. But I hope you all will have a good laugh at it.

To all the “paid boys”, (for those who aren’t aware about the term, it means guys who have sex for money) in the world full of free sex, what makes you think I’ll be interested in spending my money on you? Even if you are Poseidon, I won’t spend money for sex. You should stop approaching people upfront. Leave it on your account that you charge for sex and the ones who are desperate for sex and can spend money for it, will approach you themselves.

To all the guys who mention “no sissy, no pansy, no fairy, no girly” etc on your profile, (yes, gay men can be homophobic too. Blame it on homophobic straight people’s mentality) after I show you my pictures in makeup and jewellery, I expect you to say, I’m sorry you’re not my type. That’s the whole point why I show you my pictures in makeup and jewellery. I’m trying to hint that boy, you’ve come to the wrong place. 

Do NOT tell me, “its OK. I don’t mind as long as you don’t come with makeup.” Like N.O. I don’t wear makeup on daily basis but B!£¢#, I’m gonna wear my makeup every time you are around to make you more uncomfortable. I have no obligation to do things to please you.

Now, to those who ask me, “how can you be top” (well top means the dominating one or in easy words for you to understand, the man between the two when it comes the things that we do in bed), well just because I wear makeup, it doesn’t mean that I have to be bottom. Being top or bottom has nothing to do with what you wear or how you dress up. You need to ask yourself, if you can drool over muscular bottoms with all your saliva dripping, why is it difficult to fix it in your head that the opposite of it is equally possible? Have you never heard about women who use strap-on with their men? Grow up people.

Now to those who abuse others because you don’t have your basics in place, please be mature enough. If you are sending or asking for nudes before you have introduced yourself, don’t expect me to be sugar plum to you. You don’t know how to begin the conversation and approach a person, you should go back to primary school. If you are going to ask me stupid questions, like things that I have already mentioned in my profile or things that I have already tried to divert in other direction in polite manner, they you will get sarcasm in return. Don’t blame me to be rude. Brush up your conversation skills so that you understand what people are trying to do or say when you ask them something. Not everyone likes to insult people in the very first go. I prefer to be humble and not thrash straight away. Don’t think my humility is waste of your time. Be specific, be precise. You’ll save a lot of my time as well as yours.
To those who approach me on Grindr about how they admire me, thank you so much for your appreciation. It would be better if you can approach me about that on my social networking sites. Its a bit awkward when my profile says I’m looking for a date and someone comes to just admire me for my social work. Not that I have anything against you guys but… Its like, your mother pulling your cheeks in front of your date (I guess?)

Well honestly, even though I want the above mentioned things to stop but they are the reason why Grindr is always interesting for me. So you guys can stop doing all of that and leave Grindr as a peaceful dating app or do whatever you like and I’ll have screenshots to share with my friends and we’ll laugh at you.

That’s all for now, I hope you guys enjoyed reading it. Love.

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Letter to Bewakoof.com

Hi team!

I am disappointed to say this that you people are disrespectful (may not be all but I believe most of you).

I have bought a pair of boxers and vests from you and I had been hoping to buy a few more items from you for I used to believe that you people have some really nice stuffs. Unfortunately I regret shopping with you people now.

Let me give you a brief detail about why I am disappointed in you guys. I am gay and recently I came across a post on your page which is to save female infants. The cause maybe good but in order to promote that, you people are spreading homophobia.

Your post reads “save the girl children or else 25 years later your son will come home and say Asha to mili nahi so Ashish le aya”.

What’s wrong with the post? Let me help you understand. In our country we are already denied from having the rights to marry the guy we love and there are hell lot of homophobic people who just hate our existence as if we are intruding their lives.

To add to their hatred, your post suggests that we want to marry men because we don’t have the option to marry a girl.

Let me tell you, there are a lot of girls who would love to marry me and to many of my homosexual friends but we want to marry a person of same sex out of love and not because men are substitute for women when there’s no one to marry.

Gays existed from the very beginning of the human life till now and none of them have been homosexual because they had scarcity of women. The sad thing is, all the people out there think it’s a joke but for people like us, you are making a joke on us. You are portraying us an a substitute during the scarcity of women.

NO WE ARE NOT SUBSTITUTES. We want to marry a person of the same sex for the same reason any straight couple wants to get married and that is love.

Your post is more offensive than people’s comment out there for I would not have expected this from you people.

I can give you the stupid lame threats like I can make hell lot of people to stop buying from you (which I can actually do) but I would expect you guys to be a little more sensitive towards a person’s life.

Give some respect to existence of the people who most of the times end up without their families in this country. Give respect to those so many unaccounted deaths who have committed suicide because they are constantly pushed to live a life that they cannot really live. Give respect to those hell lot of homosexuals who are the reason for so many amazing wonders. For heavens sake give respect to Alan Turing because of whom you can use a computer in today’s world.

Don’t be so thankless to so many wonderful people like Neil Patrick Harris, Ellen DeGeneres, Ian McKellen and so many people from the history. Don’t be thankless to so many gay designers who have given your industry, the fashion industry, some really great designs. Show some respect.

At least understand that gay marriages are also out of love and not out of not having an option.

Work for a social cause but not at the cost of making jokes on another social stigma.

I don’t know what actions are you gonna take but I hope you guys will understand.

Thanks and regards,

Divya Roop.