Tag Archives: LGBT

Shortest Meaningful Blog Ever

Read this post as many times as you want. This will be the shortest blog post which means a lot, if only you can read the meaning behind it.

Trans people are PEOPLE.

With that, I’ll leave you all thinking.

🙂

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I wish…

I am 25 years old and I have seen so much in my life that I wish I had not. You must have heard “being gay is normal” several times but what no one tells you is, living life of a gay guy who does not fit in the boxes, in a world filled with homophobia, is not going to be a normal life.

Some times I don’t know if going through all the things that I have been through was worth it or not. But there are days when I convince myself that all of this would make sense one day. One day, all of this would be a just a nightmare. One day, someone will wake up and none of it will to be real for them.

When you have seen a trans person crying in the middle of the night after being sexually harassed, you would not like to trust in humanity. When you have sucked penis of a “straight guy” without consent, just to save a drunk girl from harassment, you won’t believe in straight people being straight.

When you have seen parents abandoning their children because of their sexuality, you would not like to trust on any relative. When you have seen friends turning against you, you would not be able to trust people easily. When you have seen your love moving on to a “better looking guy”, you would not like to believe in the concept of true love.

When you have seen the people of your community discriminating their own people, you would not like to believe that there is a community. When you have seen one community divided into several communities and you do not fit in those separated communities either, you would not like to accept anyone’s hand to accept you.

After seeing all of that, if you’ll see a few stories that are different from what you have seen personally, you can only feel happy for those people but those stories won’t bring back your faith. You will continue believing that those few stories are “exception”.

But the good side of all of that? You know what you don’t want for others. You learn to be humble and compassionate. But do you know what? It becomes more confusing because your experiences have made you heartless and yet you know how to spread love. You give love and respect to everyone as long as they deserve it, according to your ideas but you can’t accept the love from others.

I wish, when I wake up from this dream, this world will be a better and more accepting place. I wish…

To the people of Grindr…

If you are wondering what Grindr is, let me explain a bit. Its a dating application for gay or bi men. Its like not-so-sanskari version of shaadi dot com or bharatmatrimony dot com. You see, these websites give the facility to find a suitable partner for straight people for marriage (I guess. Do they really use it for marriage? I doubt.) But since there’s no concept of gay marriages, we go on grindr to find a suitable partner to date or just be friends with. People go there to find hookups as well (OH MY GOSH we homos are such perverts, isn’t it? Bleh, whatever.)

Today, I wanted to address a few things (or should I say people?) which I find irritating. But I hope you all will have a good laugh at it.

To all the “paid boys”, (for those who aren’t aware about the term, it means guys who have sex for money) in the world full of free sex, what makes you think I’ll be interested in spending my money on you? Even if you are Poseidon, I won’t spend money for sex. You should stop approaching people upfront. Leave it on your account that you charge for sex and the ones who are desperate for sex and can spend money for it, will approach you themselves.

To all the guys who mention “no sissy, no pansy, no fairy, no girly” etc on your profile, (yes, gay men can be homophobic too. Blame it on homophobic straight people’s mentality) after I show you my pictures in makeup and jewellery, I expect you to say, I’m sorry you’re not my type. That’s the whole point why I show you my pictures in makeup and jewellery. I’m trying to hint that boy, you’ve come to the wrong place. 

Do NOT tell me, “its OK. I don’t mind as long as you don’t come with makeup.” Like N.O. I don’t wear makeup on daily basis but B!£¢#, I’m gonna wear my makeup every time you are around to make you more uncomfortable. I have no obligation to do things to please you.

Now, to those who ask me, “how can you be top” (well top means the dominating one or in easy words for you to understand, the man between the two when it comes the things that we do in bed), well just because I wear makeup, it doesn’t mean that I have to be bottom. Being top or bottom has nothing to do with what you wear or how you dress up. You need to ask yourself, if you can drool over muscular bottoms with all your saliva dripping, why is it difficult to fix it in your head that the opposite of it is equally possible? Have you never heard about women who use strap-on with their men? Grow up people.

Now to those who abuse others because you don’t have your basics in place, please be mature enough. If you are sending or asking for nudes before you have introduced yourself, don’t expect me to be sugar plum to you. You don’t know how to begin the conversation and approach a person, you should go back to primary school. If you are going to ask me stupid questions, like things that I have already mentioned in my profile or things that I have already tried to divert in other direction in polite manner, they you will get sarcasm in return. Don’t blame me to be rude. Brush up your conversation skills so that you understand what people are trying to do or say when you ask them something. Not everyone likes to insult people in the very first go. I prefer to be humble and not thrash straight away. Don’t think my humility is waste of your time. Be specific, be precise. You’ll save a lot of my time as well as yours.
To those who approach me on Grindr about how they admire me, thank you so much for your appreciation. It would be better if you can approach me about that on my social networking sites. Its a bit awkward when my profile says I’m looking for a date and someone comes to just admire me for my social work. Not that I have anything against you guys but… Its like, your mother pulling your cheeks in front of your date (I guess?)

Well honestly, even though I want the above mentioned things to stop but they are the reason why Grindr is always interesting for me. So you guys can stop doing all of that and leave Grindr as a peaceful dating app or do whatever you like and I’ll have screenshots to share with my friends and we’ll laugh at you.

That’s all for now, I hope you guys enjoyed reading it. Love.

Existence of this is what’s wrong…

Couple of years ago, a human started bothering the members of LGBT community with his anti LGBT campaign under the veil of anti AIDS campaign. He used to make multiple profiles with several fake names and his own name to pester all the LGBT groups and individuals in India. 

You probably would be waiting to know his name but I refrain myself from using his name. You’ll see his name in the screenshots that are about to follow.

He, once challenged the whole Delhi LGBT community that he’ll come to Delhi pride and take everyone’s blood test and prove that “Every person of LGBT community has STD”, which apparently never happened. (Is it too early to call him coward?) Eventually, everyone realised that he is nothing more than a “barking dog seldom bite” and his existence became irrelevant to everyone of us.

His argument was, LGBT community is the prime reason for the STDs. To no one’s surprise, he does not even understand that the new cases of STDs are getting reduced every year, as per UNAIDS reports.

A screenshot of the UNAIDS report where it shows there has been more than 50% reduction
Guess what? This reduction in new cases has been marked after the LGBT community started getting recognized in the country. But no, this human from Punjab who used to mention “microbiologist” in his facebook profile does not understand that the way to prevent the increase in STD cases is to promote safe sex amongst LGBT community instead of pushing them back into the closet.

After couple of years, few days back, he challenged me that he will soon publish some book that will send the LGBT community back into the closet. He accepted the challenge saying, if he fails, he’ll make a video of him having sex with another man and he will become my slave.

He told me, he has been making his contacts and getting strong political support in order to send the LGBT community back into closet. Now from being a microbiologist, he became manifesto writer for BJP Punjab, a political party that believes in Hindu ideals (or so as I believe). I guess that’s what he meant to say.

But guess what? He is much more than just microbiologist and manifesto writer. He also found “hallucinative way of communicating”. Well hello there Einstein. (I don’t even know what does hallucinative way of communicating means.) Oh and by the way, if you guys were wondering whose forgiveness are we, LGBT community, seeking? It was of this guy. Unfortunately, luck is not in our favor. Sigh.

 Now, you guys might be wondering why am I so bothered about him? Its not like he can do anything really (which I completely agree to). However, the reason why I’m taking the time out to write this down is because the way he is behaving with my friends, specially girls.

He sent me a message after almost a year which I shared on my facebook wall. Here’s what he had sent:

Glory be to the demon whores, gays and gay world, 
You bloody dickhea*s, demon suc*ers, you poor souls,

There should have been hard punishment for pyscho sick people like you, harrish iyer, niladri chatterje, aditya bandopdyaa, you all people are gay demons, history can forgive , but not harit, the way u transforming and perverting innocents, will be the chief cause of your own deaths, you and your community , both are going to enter into the sea of fatal diseases, you people are voluptuous of highest order, you need nothing but hard sticks on your butts, your ass should be beaten 377 times, to teach you the lesson of Health and healthy behaviors, you people are going to change the foundation of society, i am going to gear up against you via my book on homosexuality and its consequences, see yourself after my book, you and bloody dauchebags, so called l,g,b,t would be on their knees 
Do away with homosexuality

A friend of mine, a girl had commented:

MORON SPOTTED. 😆 And yes, We ain’t douchebags. He is. But guess what, he doesn’t know the spelling himself.

And she shared a screenshot:

Now the word bastard, in an informal use, means an unpleasant or despicable person. However, that human took it as person born to unmarried parents. He went to her profile and sent her this, which she later sent me:

A human, who first sends abusive message, expects others to praise him I guess? That seems to be the only reason why he couldn’t see a girl calling him a bastard. What makes me write this blog is, he claims to write manifesto of BJP in Punjab for 2017.

I leave it to you all to decide what kind of people are working for our government and should these people, who abuse others, man or woman, be allowed anywhere near to the government bodies?

By the way, did I mention that he thinks V B Hariharan is Modi himself?

You have seen his name and you know how he behaves. Now rest is up to you, what you think. Share this, if you think that this man should learn to behave.

UPDATE: I sent emails to CPR India and Researcher India regarding his behavior and I’m waiting for their response.

However, when I told that guy about my email sent to the organisations he is associated with, this was his response.

Honestly, I don’t know how someone who abuses others first, expects people to give him respect and not abuse him on their friend’s facebook status and I really don’t know if he is actually associated to those organisations or is he still a preschool kid. 

I’ll update as and when there’s any development.

Why are you gay? – Vlog

I come across a lot of people, homophobic or otherwise, who do not understand homosexuality. They come up with their own reasons behind how a person becomes gay. Maybe in order to calm down their curiosity and feel intelligent about themselves? I don’t know.

Here’s a vlog about some of the reasons I’ve come across. Its a sarcasm on those reasons and I hope people will understand that there is no specific reason of someone’s sexuality. Its there just like heterosexuality is there. You don’t have to justify a reason behind homosexuality. The only reason behind homosexuality is exactly similar to the reason why people become heterosexual, just that the opposite sex is replaced by same sex.

I hope you enjoy the video.

Vlog – Androgyny 101

I had written a blog about androgyny. However, not everyone reads right? So here’s a vlog about androgyny.

I hope you guys like it. Please like and share the video and subscribe to my channel to start tuned for more.

Also you can send me your suggestions about what you’d like me to talk about via email divyaroop.vfx@gmail.com.

Here’s the video.

Its payback time

I used to be scared of homophobic people because I never wanted to part away from my family. But they did. Their hate separated me from my family. My family built a reputation in the society for themselves and they feared my identity will ruin that. They did try to do that and I had to move away from them. Then I started feeling pity for them thinking how much time they spend in breaking me down instead of building themselves up. Even then I always feared that their hate will only spread more hate. Guess what? I was right. They have created one more hater, me.

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Why Feminism is important

I have seen many so called educated people making fun of feminism or saying things against feminism. Funny thing is, not just brainless people who have no interest in social issues but only follow the sheep herd, but many people who speak up for LGBT issues have just seen some stupid posts about feminism and they stand against feminism.
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