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How does it feel to drag?

The first picture was taken a couple of days before I shaved my beard. My hair was shampooed in the morning before I left for my work.

The second picture was taken a couple of days after the first pic. Shaved, not shampooed hair, makeup on, nothing unusual.

In the first pic, I don’t think I look bad (because I can’t look bad in pictures) but when you look at the second picture, you feel like that’s such a pretty lady. I don’t mean to sound like I’m full of myself (maybe a little bit?) but you have to agree, the second picture does look like the old Hollywood actresses’ look. Even the messed up hair feels like has fallen to right places. It doesn’t look slutty or cheap but more like sultry and romantic.

I’m the same person in the end, behind those beard as well as the makeup. I feel the same way for the people I love and the ones I don’t. It doesn’t change. If I love someone, I still love that person.

I have not done drag drag previously but I have gone out in makeup many times with my beard and liner and jewelries, because I love to bend the gender roles in dressing and I still love to do it and I will continue doing it.

However I wanted to try drag because for me, it’s an art. To become like a woman, to maybe appear like someone you love so much is a form of art. For example, when I saw my picture, I felt like I looked like my mother in her young age (taller body with shorter hair version though).

To become so pretty that you feel you are exactly like your mother, a face you have loved since your first breath is no less than an art form. To feel what your mother might have felt amongst men staring at her, to feel what it feels like to be a woman takes courage, pair of metal balls, might I say.

It’s not some mere desire to look like a woman nor some dirty trick to get men in the bed. Honestly, the side of men you’ll see after going drag, you might would want to give up on the desire for men, it can be so nasty. However, heart wants what it wants.

It’s not some fun game honey! It takes a lot of nerve to do drag or might I say, it takes a lot of nerve to be a woman. So before you consider a queen some cheap cross dresser you hooked up with over Grindr, you better watch your mouth.

And to all the queens who have been doing this for so long, you all have my respect and love.

Response to Major Gaurav Arya

Dear sir!

You belong to army I believe? First of all, I have a great respect for our indian army men. My uncle is lieutenant colonel in armed forces. I know, you people took up the most risky job of your lives. We, common people do not deserve as much respect as you do. Everyday of your lives are at risk.

Not long ago, when everyone was expecting a good night sleep, some terrorists killed 18 soldiers near the border. I have no words to express how I feel. Only thing I can think of is I want those terrorists to be dead. I want every last terrorist to be dead so that they do not breed any further. So that this world of hate and murders can be over.

But there are many people like me who think sending Pakistani artists back was not necessary. You said that makes you soldiers think why are you even fighting? Well I believe the war you are fighting is to achieve peace? I guess that’s what said as well, peace is the end result of war.

Anyone who wants peace, knows that there will be a war, a war against terrorism. We stand in solidarity with you in the war against terrorism. We appreciate our soldiers fighting it back for the peace. But are the artists of Pakistan terrorists? Fawad Khan, Rahat Fateh Ali Khan and many other Pakistani artists, who have worked with Bollywood, have considered India as their family, not once but time and again.

There are several Pakistani people who are a fan of Bollywood movies and actors. Do you consider every Pakistani a terrorist supporter? Do you believe every Pakistani is a terrorist? Do you think that only India has innocent civilians?

Why is it too difficult to believe that we stand with our army in the fight against terrorism? Just because we believe that every innocent lives, who wants peace, matter? Just because we appreciate and admire those Pakistani artists who consider India as their family, you and your soldiers think that we have lost respect for you and those who lost their lives?

Yes, its very easy for us to sit in our homes and talk about peace because we aren’t fighting at the borders but I have a question. Why did you choose Indian army when you could have been a 12th pass call center worker? Were you not aware of what responsibilities come along with that uniform? Did your soldiers sign up for this job to hear about whether people are boycotting peace loving Pakistani citizens or not? Or did you sign up for this job just because it secures your family future and pays you well? I’m asking this because my family wanted me to join army because I won’t have money issues and my family future will be secured.

If those were the reasons for joining Indian army, then I think you shouldn’t have been in the army in the first place. One must join army for 2 reasons, they are against terrorism and they are ready to fight for the safety of the nation. 

We mourn along with the families of the soldiers. Their deaths were uncalled for. But sending Pakistani artists back is neither going to help us achieve peace, nor it will bring back the lives of the departed souls. Your fight is against terrorism. It doesn’t matter if its from Pakistan, China or any other country.

There’s no pain of Fawad leaving India, its just a logical reasoning and debate. There were 20 Pakistani girls who came to India recently as a delegate to peace summit. Should they have been boycotted and sent back just because they are young girls from Pakistan who wants peace? Is having Pakistani citizenship a benchmark or a brand that confirms that the person is a terrorist?

Patriotism is good but we believe in “Vasudhaiv Kutumbakum”. We have respect for our army but that does not mean that we will support every senseless step that is not towards progression or betterment. 

We can keep on arguing about ban on Pakistani artists but honestly, let’s consider a situation where we manage to kill every last terrorist hiding in Pakistan. The only thing that it will lead to is another set of people in Pakistan who will remember how Indians misbehaved with the peace loving citizens of Pakistan.

You see what it will create? A new set of haters, a new set of terrorists. And this fight will never stop. We have a choice, either we spill our anger all at once and create more hate between the two nations and focus on short term peace or we hold on to whatever small amount of love and mutual respect we have achieved between the two countries and destroy the pertaining hate filled terrorists and aim at a long time peace.

Choice is yours. I leave the judgement upon you and every other citizen.

Thank you.

Who let the uncle out?

Fair warning: If you are an idealist and do not want to read bad words, do not continue reading. I am outraged by the amount of misogyny I saw today in just five minutes.

I came across this post about Sunny Leone’s interview with Bhupender Chaubey and I will be honest with you, I just couldn’t take it for more than five minutes. Its disgusting what he was trying to do during the whole interview.
Continue reading Who let the uncle out?

I Do NOT Hate India

So lately I have been posting many things that I find ridiculous in India and now people search for “Gay who hates India” and find my blog. I mean seriously? Let me clarify it.

I do NOT hate India.

I post about things that I dislike and I use the instances of India because I live in this country. It does not mean that if that is  happening in other country, I won’t say anything about them. Continue reading I Do NOT Hate India

I am free

We all live our lives. And the truth is, we all want to live happily. No one wants to live a life where you do not have the freedom to be who you really are.

I know many will feel outraged after reading my next few lines. So if you do, my humble apologies. It’s just an example. Continue reading I am free

What makes you beautiful

Are you tired of people commenting about your face? Are you frustrated that people make fun of your belly? Are you not able to take it anymore? Do you want to become beautiful? Here are the seven steps to be beautiful: Continue reading What makes you beautiful

I failed

Kali Walia says, “Hello Hi, This is to certify that Mr. Divya Roop is not an attacking beast ready to find a prey in his sexual quest. He is, although, a sweet soul who never fails to put a smile on my face whenever we get the chance to meet. So judge him all you want for being an adorable ball of love! I hope he finds happiness in whatever he aspires to be. Plus, he is so hot that I’ve already booked him for another lifetime! I am honored to be his friend and love him to bits. xx” Continue reading I failed