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Revolution through Clothing

I have heard people talking about revolutions. How does revolution start? And does a revolution help at all? Let’s go back in history classes, shall we? (I know many of “desh bhakts” are going to be furious after reading this, but we are talking revolution, so who cares?)

Before we step into history, let’s understand what is revolution all about. Revolution is about creating a movement in the society that pushes the society to the extent that their usual ideologies are challenged and eventually changed.

Why do we need revolutions? You see, the society that we live in, it ain’t perfect, like everything else. But should we stop ourselves from trying to achieve that perfection? The answer is, no. This is something that, I assume, most of us would agree to.

If a person wants to be a singer, they have practice to improve their vocals. If a person wants to be an actor, they have to practice to improve their acting skills. This all, is on individual level, where we push our limits to achieve perfection, even though we know perfection cannot be achieved. There will always be a room for improvement or betterment.

You see, on an individual level, we all try to improve ourselves to become better and better. But when it comes to society, that individual efforts aren’t enough. That effort will improve you, sure. But is that the need of the society? No. Society as a whole, needs different changes to improve.

Now, let’s stop into history. Back in history, India used to have a tradition where widows were forced to burn alive with their dead husband. Some people felt that it wasn’t right. However, they didn’t say anything because they felt, it’s a common thing, it’s a tradition, it’s culture. We shouldn’t argue or question it. They, on an individual level, knew in their hearts that this tradition is wrong, but they didn’t want to challenge it.

Then, someone created a revolution, fought against this tradition and today, we don’t have that tradition anymore. So you see, the tradition or the norms that we follow, we may or may not realize that it is harmful for some section of the society, however it is better if we get rid of that tradition or norm. In order to bring that change, a revolution has to start.

Now who would do that? Since it’s about society, shouldn’t it be started by a bunch of people with the same mindset? Of course, but that’s not how it’s going to start, EVER. Let me tell you why. We are lazy a**holes (excuse me for my language but that’s truth). We love everything served to us in a platter. Most of us don’t want to step in the kitchen to prepare that platter for ourselves.

That’s exactly what happens when it comes to revolution. Everyone would say, I’m hungry (for a change) but I can’t go in the kitchen to cook (or start a revolution). Amongst all these hungry lazy people, one has to step up and do something to start the change. When someone takes an initiative, the people who were waiting for it will join in.

So you see, even to change the society, one individual is enough. The revolution will begin. People will join in. Imagine, if Mr. Gandhi wouldn’t have initiated Dandi March, probably salt would have been controlled by British rule throughout, even though it was all ours. (Yes, I admire a few things that Mr. Gandhi did in his lifetime. I may not agree with all his ideologies though.) [P.S. This is the part for which I’m expecting a lot of desh bhakths are going to be angry on me. Moving on.]

Now, one of the things that many people do not realize or acknowledge is how clothing has created so many revolutions. There was a time, when India used to follow traditional clothes. They were marvelous and mesmerizing. They still are. However, there were some clothing items which were more practical and easy to be in but the society was not ready to accept it.

Some women and men decided to break the norms in terms of clothing and things changed. What was weird once, it became a norm later. But have we reached perfection yet? Let’s remember, there’s always a room for improvement.

Today, clothes are become gender specific. You have to be of a particular gender (out of the two only) to wear certain kind of clothes. But then, now that we know LGBTQ community exist (for some reason) we need to understand that there are people who may not fit into the idea of gender binaries.

I understand that there are some clothing items that are designed according to the anatomy of human bodies but then, to be very honest, there are various ways to work that part out. So, today if I buy a gown for myself and if I can carry it gracefully, I don’t see why anyone who has not paid my bills, should question my choices.

The reason why I chose to write this today is because I have a pair of amazing comfortable 4 inches heels. I was wearing them while I was going through a public metro. I noticed a few people taking my picture, trying to be all secretive and discreet but you can see where the camera was pointing and how was the phone held.

It was a weird and strange sight for them today but with that they will go back with the sense, “Oh so that’s also in fashion these days.” They may not like anyone doing that in their family, I guess, but they will not be as startled as they were today when they see it next. The reason why I’m sharing this is because, you should know, we all, at our levels can bring a revolution that will take the society to a better path. Just know whatever revolution you try to bring, it should not bring chaos or it should not harm others. Rather it should bring acceptance to the vivid spectrum of individuality.

With that, I would like you all to meet Roshini Kumar, an amazing photographer who has taken an initiative to bring a revolution through her magazine called Revolution Magazine.

Her magazine is going to bring out the uncensored and unapologetic images of real people so that the weird for the world, once again becomes normal and people will once again find acceptance in this world.

Roshini, through her magazine has recently unveiled her first shoot for the magazine that shows three amazing drag queens, Little Mickey, Veronique and Divine Scarlett (that’s my drag name if you guys have read in my previous post). I am not going to share the images here because I want you guys to take an initiative and click on the links to find these WONDERFUL images. Trust me, they are worth it and you should go and follow them.

With that, I’m signing off now. I hope to see you guys on the other side of THIS revolution, if not on the journey with us.

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Discrimination in renting

Are you earning enough to pay your rents on time? Are you paying your rents on time? Are you living without creating any nuisance and disturbance for your neighbors? Do you have no criminal background? 

Well, these are certain questions that one should be concerned about when giving a place on rent. But the sad part is, in Mumbai, a city of dreams, where one expects a little liberal society, the landlords, society, etc these people love to make this city of dreams a city of nightmare when it comes up renting out a place. 

In Malad West, near Atharva college, there is a society named Ashmita Jyoti. Two of my friends rented out a place on the second floor. When taking the place, the broker ensured them that as long as you people don’t create noise, it’s OK if your friends visit.

On my way to my home, their home comes first, so I drop by once in a while. We have food together, talk, watch movies together etc. We sometimes play music which is usually never audible outside the room. You’ll know it when you’ll come to this house. We have birthday parties or festival celebrations which is again a gathering of a few people and you can’t hear anything outside. I know it because everytime I go out to get cigarettes, the moment the door closes, the voices aren’t audible. 

However, the people of the society still ended up having problem. The landlord of my friends had seen me, the blonde haired guy and my other friend, a blonde dread lock haired guy at this house. After few weeks, landlord started calling my friends saying, society people are complaining that everyday you have friends coming in. When asked, if there is any noise or disturbance? There was no answer to it. 

My friends and we all decided that we will visit less frequently. We went to celebrate Diwali to their house. Well you don’t celebrate Diwali sitting in one place and not meeting your only family, your friends in the city, do you? Guess what! The next day, the complaint was, your friends have… WAIT FOR IT… “WEIRD HAIR“. Yes, my dear friends, people of Ashmita Jyoti have issues with what is your HAIRSTYLE. 

Me and these friends of mine went to Goa on first of November randomly and came back today and now this landlord called them saying, a girl visited your home yesterday and people are complaining that you all are gay.

Now people have problems with if your friends are coming home, if your friends have different hairstyle, if you’re gay, what you do within your four walls, which TV series you watch, how many teeth you have, how many RBCs does your body contain and probably they also have problem with what color of poop you excrete. 

This is just a clear sign of no matter if you want to have peaceful life or what, these homophobic people don’t want to see us in peace. They just need reasons to create disturbances. Not just us but these people have no good to do so they want to create the lives hell for everyone else who is not them. Religion, caste, food habit, sexuality, birth place, etc, they can make a complaint against you for anything. 

They may not have any proof of anything but still they will make complaint. Now my friend are being asked to leave and look for new house in couple of months but the question is, without doing anything wrong they now need to go through shifting again and not to forget brokerage is also a thing. 

It’s pathetic and horrible on societies and landlords like these. Not that anyone would care about it and the politicians have everything they need, why should they bother about “miniscule minorities”? 

#VeryShortStories – 1

She was a child playing in her bedroom when her parents were not around. Her uncle was supposed to babysit her. She didn’t know what happened. She never spoke about it to anyone. Her family never understood her dislike towards boys. Today she refuses to give her vagina to any man to do what her uncle did. She does not want to marry a man and give him the legal rights to do all that to her whenever he pleases. Today the world laughs at her. Calls her lesbian because she does not like men. Calls her feminazi for refusing to have baby and standing up for her reproductive rights.

Eyes on me

Today, I was going for choir practice (yes I’m a part of India’s first gay choir group, Rainbow voices). On my way, while I was in an auto rickshaw, another one was driving just next to us. Busy on my phone, I didn’t notice what was happening. When all of a sudden my driver shouted, “Marad hai. Mud mud k dekhne ki zaroorat nahi. Agey badh.” (He’s a man. No need to turn your heads. Go ahead.)

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A Suicide and Hypocrisy

In the recent news update, a doctor of All Indian Institute of Medical Science (AIIMS) committed suicide because her husband was gay. She was ready to accept him but he mentally tortured her. So much, that she decided to commit suicide.

I’ll be honest, I have no sympathies towards that man and at the same time I have no sympathies for the woman. Yes, the man did wrong but what the woman chose as her final resort was just unacceptable to me. I can never accept that she had no choices left.  Continue reading A Suicide and Hypocrisy

Stop being loud

“Its ok man. Your sexuality is just a part of you. Its not what defines who you are. You are more than your sexuality. Why the hell do you have to be so loud about your sexuality? Why do you have to make a big fuss out of it? Why do you need a pride parade to show off your sexuality? Why do you guys have to dress up in weird ways for such things? We straight people don’t have straight pride or anything like that. Because we know that our sexuality is not what defines us. You guys should understand that.”

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